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Male rape: Why I didn't go to the police
- Author, Rick Kelsey
- Role, Newsbeat reporter
Nineteen-year-old Dean Eastmond says he never went to the police after being raped because he thought he would "be seen as the criminal".
Now he's spoken to Newsbeat about the afternoon that changed his life.
He hopes more men will come forward - now a charity that supports male victims has been given 拢78,000 by the Mayor of London's office.
Survivors UK hopes the cash will fund more places where victims can find help.
Dean's only recently had the courage to speak about what happened to him.
We have no reason not to believe his story but can't independently confirm it, as it was never reported.
"My school did this big initiative to get people jobs for the 2012 Olympics," he tells us.
"At the time I wasn't openly gay. I was still very much in the closet.
"I made friends with someone who I thought was gay. We'd work about nine hours a day together and he suggested going to my house while my parents were out.
Dean says he was "a bit of a goody goody" as a child and that having a friend over without his parent's permission was about the naughtiest thing he would do.
When they got to the house, his friend started acting oddly.
Before Dean knew what was happening, he was being attacked and was raped on his bed.
"I know it didn't last very long but it felt like it did.
"I remember being so confused because I wasn't sure what happened to me."
In the days and months that followed, Dean was terrified. He says every time he went back to his parent's house "I thought I'd find him there in my room".
So why didn't Dean go to the police?
"Any mention of it would really affect me," he says. "I would try and forget about it. I've tried to block it out for so long."
Recent mentions of rape claims involving celebrities have also put him off coming forward as he feels victims aren't taken seriously.
"I just think 'how are they going to prove it?'"
Roughly 9,000 men are victims of rape or attempted rape each year according to figures released in 2013.
Yet police stats show fewer than 3,000 offences of male rape or sexual assault were recorded that year.
Dean puts this down to not talking: "The lack of conversation about it means people don't know what to do."
A few years on, Dean can now talk about what happened. He's got a boyfriend now - and has spoken to him about the attack.
Dean agrees there's not enough support for female rape victims but believes there's even less help for men.
"I know there would be so many people who would benefit from just knowing there was help and support out there."
If you need help and support, there's lots of information at 成人快手 Advice online.
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