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i just wanted to say how much i hate bullies and to anyone being bullied should talk to someone and if you are one of those vile bullies just think about the person your bullying and what you are doing to them its not nice being bullied at all but you should never bully somneone because they are not the same as you or because they live a different lifeand to anyone being bulliedyou are not alone (L) there is always someone to listen :)))))!

It's nice of you to mention this! :)
I was bullied at school for several years and I just wanna say this; it never stops unless you do something about it. Talk to someone ♥

Bullying has reached epidemic proportions throughout schools right across the world.
To help combat this we have anti bully week soon in the UK and other countries have similar things taking place. I'm an adult and also a teacher who still remembers being bullied at school and i have my own concerns with anti bully week. Before you read on please try to think back to when you were 9 years old and how you processed information at that age. Anti bully week as admirable as it is is simply not enough, In fact i would go as far to say that it is more hurtful to a child suffering from bullying to know that we as adults only care deeply enough to help them one week out of fifty two weeks a year with this serious problem that is life threatening to them. One weeks grace from being bullied is how a child sees it no matter how well our intentions are. Children want adults to pay attention to bullying behavior every day of the school year and not just one week. A bullied child will spend anti bully week worrying about what is going to happen the following week. The same child will welcome one weeks grace from bullying for sure but deep down they also know that it will be wiped from memory the following week on the playground when it's back to business as usual for the bully. That is exactly how i see it knowing that i was one of those bullied kids and only someone who has been bullied can truly understand how that feels inside, no amount of board meetings are going to help change this situation until children are actively involved in those meetings and adults actually listen and i mean seriously listen to what children have to say before making any decisions. No bullied child cares about how many qualifications you have or how clever your words are spun on this issue. All the child wants to know is when are you going to stop me from being bullied and who do I turn to at school who will actually step in and stop it! Address those two key issues for children in school and you have a fighting chance.
Look at it from a childs point of view...
Lets say a child falls over on the playground and graze their knee,the response from an adult is instant!
We instantly DO something to help that child but yet when an adult see's bullying take place there is always a pause, it should not be like that. We should respond instantly in the same way as a grazed knee because that is how a child see's it. No one wants to see a child suffer but the reality for the child being bullied at school is.. You just saw me being bullied and did nothing about it. How hurtful is that for a young mind to process? We teach our children to do the right thing/help each other and yet they see adults turn a blind eye to bullying when they really need us to step in. As adults we know that this is not always the case ,not all adults respond this way because it is simply untrue but to a child suffering at the hands of a bully they will not see it that way at all. I know I didn't! Many years later i was developing my own anti bully program which i already had lots of information to draw upon from my own experience but i also spoke with lots of different children about bullying. I also come from a large family and one nephew and niece that i spoke to gave me so much information that it was like i had been transported back in time to when i was at school. They were telling me the exact same things kids were saying and doing to me on the playground over 30 years ago!
So much for progress!
Another very important thing which is easily overlooked by schools is that if they did actually make a concerted effort to stop bullying in school the children's grades would naturally improve!
They would improve ten fold because the child no longer sits in the classroom engrossed in their own worrying thoughts about what is going to happen to them once the bell rings. Their minds are free from all those worrying thoughts so they can focus on their school work. Yet we waste so much time and money focusing on improving stats when the answer to improve those stats are right under the principles nose. Stop the bullying behavior! There is no quick fix to this problem because without the principle and teachers all being on the same page and making a collective stand to step in every time they see bullying behavior it will continue.
Everyone has to be on the same page,Principles,Teachers,Parents and Children. Teachers would learn a lot if they got back in touch with their own childhood to really understand how this problem seriously affects children's ability to learn. Think like a child,see it from their point of view, listen to what is most important to a child for them to be able to speak up about it so the teacher can step in and begin to help them. My program is a whole school program
and everyone is involved with no one left out. I created it for children to learn how to work together with each other and with their teachers. Stopping bullying behavior is what teachers need to focus their attention on because the more we do then the more chance we have of seeing kids run home from school all excited to tell their parents of how great it was at school today instead of running home yet again because someone turned a blind eye to bullying behavior and the child is actually running home in fear being chased down the road by a school bully. It needs to be a collective whole school approach and children need to see teachers lead by example taking positive steps on this issue at all times to stop it. Children need to see teachers deal with bullying behavior swiftly before kids will trust them enough to speak up about it.
Johnny

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